Well there's a reason why they use the term ‘Pregnancy Mind’ and trust me it's not restricted to your memory power it plays havoc with every aspect of your life. You are second guessing everything, your mind is flooded with numerous doubts about being parents. And the million dollar question of how to manage kid and job altogether.
Is it ok to leave my job to be a mom? What if I get bored sitting at home? I don’t want to be left alone when my friends are out there succeeding in their career. And on and on and on!!
Does it sound like you? Well you are not alone.
Every woman in the current generation has gone through this. Some working women we see seem to have figured it all out and some are struggling to balance career and motherhood. Well I do not mean to discriminate gender wise but it’s just a fact (natures creation) that women go through more changes physically and emotionally after child birth, and it is by nature that a baby tends to look for nurturing from mother more than from the father.
During older days men were always known to be breadwinners and women the nurturer but with the 21st century we have evolved into equal status in careers, and to a large extent in parenthood too. Couples are taking turns with responsibility much more often now, it’s no more just the mothers job.
We are evolving to be partners in life and partners as parents too..
But like everything else this too has a flip side :( . When both the parents are out there working with 9 – 6 Jobs we start to look at parenting in a new way. To nurture the next generation they need our attention and time. And at times if our jobs are too hectic we forget why we were working at the end of the day. We slog throughout the week, spend our hard earned money to de-stress because we were too busy the whole week, buy our kids too many things to compensate for our guilt of working and being away.
So what if I say it's ok to change careers with motherhood and find new passions, is it really all that bad?
Embrace the change:
Life might not be the same, it's more beautiful and tiring at times. But motherhood is a responsibility to love and take care of your little one. Your free time may not be the same as your single days. You will learn to balance motherhood soon.
Discover new passion:
As kids we dreamt of becoming many things, our goals had never a limit. Discover your inner passion.
Letting go of your dream job:
Well, many of us are already in our dream jobs but at times it doesn’t give us personal time or balancing life becomes difficult. It's ok to let go and start fresh with another passion, It will take some time but you’ll get there.
Create positive mom circle:
Having other mom friends can be huge emotional support. And keep company with those who wish to balance their lives and pursue passion.
Take time to adapt:
With the end of maternity leave we all have doubts, so give in some time to adjust before deciding your next step.
Once again I am not saying you should lose your soul or your personality but not every shift is bad, especially one that helps you to rediscover yourself and maybe get blessed to fulfill two passions in one lifetime.
Durga Chincholi
( India )